The wise of heart is called discerning, and sweetness of speech increases persuasiveness.

Proverbs 16:21

You know that guy at work who, as soon as you see him coming, you know from experience that the only thing that’s going to come out of his mouth is some petty, nit-picking criticism of the job you’re doing?

Have you ever heard of the husband or wife who rarely gives praise but always seems to find the time to criticize their spouse on how they placed the dishes in the dishwasher?

Friends, does any of this describe you and me?  Are you a very critical person?

Or do you have that “sweetness of speech” that is more likely to bring about good results?

Look at Proverbs 16:21 above.  What is more “persuasive”?  What is more likely to get people to see where you’re coming from?  What is more likely to bring people over to your point of view?  What is more likely to bring about good results?

Answer:  “sweetness of speech.”  Acknowledging and praising the good that they do.  Picking and choosing the battles you fight.  Picking and choosing the critiques which actually need to be given and the ones which aren’t that important and can be cast aside.

Take note that this “sweetness of speech (which) increases persuasiveness” is associated by God with “the wise heart (who is) called discerning.”  Which kind of person do you think God wants you to be?  Which do you think the people around you want you to be?  Which do you think is more productive to the cause of Christ which is bringing lost souls to him?

Don’t be a very critical person.  It’s highly counterproductive.