God desires peace and unity in His church (Ps. 133:1; Phil. 2:1-5). That means, Christians, that we must not be the ones who cause strife. Unfortunately, some Christians do that. Diotrophes did because he wanted power. He wanted to be number one. He wanted to have his way all the time (3 John 9-10). God does not want us to be that way.
Here’s how He wants us to be:
Ephesians 4:1-3 (ESV)
1 I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called,
2 with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love,
3 eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
We are called to examine ourselves, brethren (2 Cor. 13:5). Therefore, let’s ask ourselves some questions.
- Are you walking in a manner worthy of the name Christian?
- Think of your Christian brothers and sisters at the congregation where you worship. Do you refresh them, like Onesiphorus refreshed Paul and Philemon refreshed the hearts of his brethren (2 Tim. 1:16; Philemon 7)?
- When you walk into the church building, do you make your brethren happy to see you? Are they encouraged by your presence?
- Are you humble? Gentle?
- Do you show tolerance, forbearance, and patience towards your Christian brothers and sisters when they act in a way that displeases you?
- Are you diligent to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace at the church where you worship and work?
These are important questions, my friends. Think on them and answer honestly. Compare how you are with how God wants you to be as revealed in His Word. If changes are required, then make them. Love your church family enough to have a good attitude around them.